CNNHealth has joined the rising chorus of anti-monogamy voices in the liberal media. In a weekly blog post for “The Chart,” Dr. Ian Kerner discussed a new book called “The Gaggle,” by Jessica Massa, in which single women are encouraged to date at least three men at a time.
According to Massa, the pressure of choosing someone to commit to dissipates when there are more than two men to choose from. “As a woman, having a ‘gaggle’ (of men) provides you with a love life full of possibility,” she said. Different men can fulfill different needs and desires. Kerner succinctly summarized the premise of Massa’s book: “it’s a post dating world you’re living in, and that means you have to shed your one-to-one mind set and start thinking in terms of one to many.”
That sounds harmless enough, if a bit mercenary. But predictably for a sexologist who writes about things like how straight couples can learn a thing or two from gay ones, and the best sex toys on the market, Kerner took it further. “Nor does being single have to equal celibate,” he wrote. “It’s your love-life, so do it your way. As long as you’re open and honest with your dates -- and practice safe sex -- there’s no reason why you can’t be intimate with more than one person.” In the brave new sexual world, the only rule is safe sex.
He cited another book, titled, “The Ethical Slut,” in which women are taught how to “juggle multiple sex partners and enjoy intimacy safely and ethically.” To Kerner, the book is “groundbreaking.”
The CNN sex guru neglected to mention any repercussions of this laissez-faire lifestyle, such as the risk of STDs and the fact that multiple relationships cripples intimacy.
Kerner closed with a shot against marriage. “Marriage is wonderful for many, but it’s not the right choice for everyone.”
Authors like Massa, hyped by “experts” like Kerner, have adopted a radical approach to sexuality – one that declares that traditional monogamous relationships are nearly impossible and even possibly harmful. The Huffington Post has consistently made a mockery of monogamous relationships by promoting ‘dating sites’ like Ashley Madison, and The Today Show was comfortable broaching the topic.